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Business Coaching Psychotherapy

How Do Coaches Differ from Psychotherapists in the USA?

What’s the Difference between a Psychotherapist and a Business Coach?

Here’s the main difference – Business Coaches assist their clients to achieve business and career goals while psychotherapists help patients to overcome mental, emotional, behavioral and relationship problems.

Here are some other significant differences:

     I. Psychotherapists:

  • Trained in graduate schools to receive Masters and Doctoral degrees
  • Highly supervised in their clinical experiences
  • Get a professional license in the state they work in
  • Commit to a strict set of enforceable licensing and professional association ethical practices
  • Required to attend continuing education courses to extend their annual state licensure
  • May be certified by a training program in a specialty treatment area
  • Focus on the past, present and future
  • Have psychodiagnostic and treatment skills
  • Work in clinics, hospitals, agencies, research centers, universities or private practices
  • May receive some reimbursement from health insurance companies

 

      II. Business Coaches:

  • Anyone may call themselves a “coach” with no prerequisite training
  • May be trained in coaching schools but not necessary
  • No educational requirements
  • Often have personal work experience in the specialty area they coach in
  • Little training supervision offered and no continuing education required
  • No state licensure required but may be certified by a coach training agency
  • May commit to a set of ethical standards but not enforceable by a state agency
  • Focus mainly on the present and future
  • Employed as an “internal” coach within a company or hired as an “external” coach working independently
  • No ability to collect fees from health insurance companies

As you can see from the list above, there’s a big difference between psychotherapists and coaches, mainly in the level of education, supervision and ethical standards followed. Psychotherapists may be called true “professionals” because, like attorneys, physicians and chiropractors, they are: 1) Highly educated, 2) State licensed, 3) Held to high standards of ethical conduct, and 4) Required to fulfill continuing education every year. Coaches may behave “professionally” but they are not held to a higher level of education or a set of state required standards and discipline.

What If a Psychotherapist Is Also a Trained Coach?

A psychologist like myself is uniquely positioned to provide clients with empowering services. Psychotherapists can assist clients to examine and develop aspects of personality, behavior and thought patterns. They can also help clients to better regulate and manager their moods and emotions at work. In addition, psychotherapists-coaches may assist business clients with social or “people” skills and provide helpful support to project team members and managers with interpersonal skills.

Fundamentally, this combination of training and experience can transform the everyday business life of a client, manager or executive in ways that extend beyond specialty coaching. Psychotherapists trained in coaching methods can professionally assist clients to overcome psychological issues that interfere with goal attainment.

What Is Dr. Miller’s Coaching Advantage?

I am both a licensed psychologist as well as an experienced and trained executive and business performance coach. I am trained in clinical psychology as well as business coaching. I have knowledge about business skills such as: goal setting, strategic planning, marketing, sales, communications, work team management, plus executive and management skills. I can assist individual business clients to overcome psychological issues that interfere with their attainment of business and career goals.  As a trained group therapist, I understand how work or project teams and their managers can communicate and perform more effectively.

I can coach managers and executives in corporations, small business owners and professionals to achieve their goals.

 

Click this link to learn more about my specialized “Business Performance Coaching” services:  http://www.drrevelmiller.com/what-we-treat/business-performance-coaching/

Call me at 805-448-5053 to discuss your business coaching needs. I can help you reach your goals.

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Couples/Marital Issues Infidelity/Affairs

How Can We Qualify an Effective Infidelity Therapist?

Follow the Strategies Below to Seek Out an Infidelity Specialist:

It is important to understand that not all couple or marriage therapists are trained or experienced in therapy for infidelity. When consulting a therapist, ask questions about their experience with infidelity counseling and how long they have been doing this specialized type of therapy.

Essentially, it is vital to understand that there are therapists who are well versed in unique approaches developed for effective therapy for infidelity. These proven methods do the most good with the best results. Infidelity specialists can provide a depth of healing you may not find with a therapist who has less experience and knowledge.

So, take some time to evaluate potential therapists before selecting one to choose to work with.

Assess the Therapist’s Attitude Toward Marriage/Relationships

Some therapists are clearly pro-relationship/marriage and against divorce while others are completely neutral about client relationships, making no attempts to encourage either staying together or separating/divorcing.

So, before seeking out a therapist, you both must decide what your relationship goals are. You and your partner are in a sensitive situation with passions and confusion running high. However, you are seeking help for a reason. Your desire to salvage the relationship, if that is your goal, should be stated clearly and honored by the therapist you select.  If you are on the path to divorce, let the therapist know and allow them to help you unwind your relationship.

Assess Your Trust in the Therapist

Being honest and vulnerable about the state of your relationship should never be a problem for you or your therapist. You need to trust your counselor. Be careful to choose a professional who is prepared to help you repair your relationship sensitively and compassionately. Remember that an infidelity therapist might also be a help if either of you needs to heal any past psychological issues that might complicate forgiveness or trigger future problems.

Assess the Therapist’s Ability to Manage Intense Emotions

Intense feelings are ignited and unleashed in the “hurt partner” when an affair is discovered. The “unfaithful partner” may also express intense emotional affect. Therefore, your therapist must be able to manage a high degree of emotional expression and intensity in order to facilitate communication and understanding during the therapy sessions.

And, both partners should also be prepared for and tolerant of heightened emotions expressed openly at home. Things are not the same any more. Behaviors, emotions and ways of communicating have shifted. With infidelity, your lives have now become more unpredictable and volatile. You should be able to trust your therapist and feel comfortable discussing difficult topics, emotions, thoughts and behaviors.

Assess the Therapist’s Ability to Remain Neutral

To be productive during the therapy sessions, you two must sense that you are both able to share safely, without feeling criticized or favored or discriminated against by the therapist in a lopsided manner. Neither of you should feel like the “bad guy”.

The goal of an experienced infidelity therapist is to maintain neutrality, withhold criticism, and help you both eventually accept responsibility for your separate contributions to the fracture in your relationship. Then, as a team, the three of you can work toward understanding and change.

What Should We Beware of When Qualifying an Infidelity Therapist?

Avoid and stay clear of a therapist who:

  • Demonstrates any bias or prejudice toward either of you two.
  • Criticizes either of you.
  • Supports any sort of revenge or shaming.
  • Cannot handle the expression of intense emotions.
  • Offers a “quick fix” to your problem.

Learn more about my “Therapy for Infidelity” services by clicking here: http://www.drrevelmiller.com/what-we-treat/therapy-for-infidelity/

 

For even more specific steps to follow on how to identify, evaluate and find an infidelity therapists near you, click on the link below to read my other blog article entitled “How to Find and Assess an Infidelity Therapist”: http://www.drrevelmiller.com/2019/10/how-do-we-find-and-assess-an-infidelity-therapist/

 

If you believe that I may be of help to you, please contact me soon for a brief and free initial consult by calling –   805-448-5053.

 

 

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Couples/Marital Issues Infidelity/Affairs

How Do We Find and Assess an Infidelity Therapist?

Do We Need an Infidelity Therapist?

If you are having an affair and feeling very guilty about it or if you are in shock after discovering that your partner has had an affair, then as a couple you probably need therapy in order to re-build your relationship and communication.

Why? Because affairs are very damaging to marriages and love relationships.

But Aren’t the Partners Reacting and Seeing This Dilemma Differently?

Yes, they usually have different perspectives and emotional reactions to a discovered affair.

Discovery of an affair upsets the “hurt” partner on a very deep emotional level especially if they assumed that their relationship was monogamous and had no suspicion that an affair may be occurring. Hurt partners usually feel very shocked and betrayed, suffer with emotional pain and become emotionally less stable. A bleak dark cloud rapidly forms over their entire life. Infidelity can then cause: distrust, withdrawal, anger, resentment, confusion, paranoia, depression, hopelessness, revenge. It destabilizes the marriage and the family relations and communications.

Meanwhile, the “unfaithful” partner may detach and withdraw emotionally from his/her partner and not understand why their partner has become so upset, unreasonable or out-of-control. Or, they may feel very guilty about their “cheating” behavior and how much suffering they have caused in their unsuspecting spouse/partner. They may either stop the affair immediately or continue it and refuse to give up their “affair partner”.

Even If One Partner Is Reluctant, Should We Still Pursue a Therapist?

Yes, because of this complexity and intensity, utilizing the assistance of a professional specialist in infidelity can be a very wise choice for everyone involved. It can pull the partners out of confusion and into understanding and perspective. It can lift a partner out of deep anger and depression and it may also protect the children and family from unnecessary pain and disruption. Therapeutic intervention can prevent further relationship deterioration and distancing.

This is not a journey for most couples to take on their own and, unfortunately, friends, physicians and family members are not equipped to be very helpful. This is probably new territory for both of you and therefore you are not equipped to make it through in a healthy way.

How Do We Start to Find an Infidelity Therapist?

Here’s a brief outline of 9 general steps for partners to take when seeking a therapist:

  1. Agree that both partners will participate in therapy.
  2. Decide who will make the calls to potential therapists.
  3. Identify the names of some local qualified therapists.
  4. Call some therapists on your list and have a brief consult on the phone.
  5. Schedule an initial appointment if you like how they responded to you.
  6. Attend an initial “informational interview” to determine their experience, style and whether or not there is a “good fit”.
  7. Determine your possible costs and what benefits to expect from your health insurance company.
  8. Make a commitment to start regular sessions with one of the therapists.
  9. Make your first appointment with that therapist.

These 9 steps above may take a week or two in order to meet with a few different therapists. Shopping around for a “good match” is acceptable because you want to find somebody you trust, resonate with and can afford.

What Specific Actions Should We Take Now?

Take the following 4 important steps to find the right therapist to work with:

1. Do a Self-Evaluation – Start with yourself before meeting a therapist:

  • Identify and write down a list of the impact the affair has had on all involved.
  • Ponder and write down the possible causes of this violation.
  • Contemplate what type of couple therapist you might prefer: male vs female therapist; small private practice vs large clinic; age of therapist; etc.
  • Research the usual or customary costs of psychotherapy in your area.
  • Determine if you need your health insurance to pay for treatment. Call your insurance provider for information about benefits.
  • Determine how much you are willing to pay out-of-pocket for therapy.

2. Get Referrals – If you don’t know any therapists, you need to ask for recommendations or search online:

  • Don’t be shy or ashamed to ask for recommendations.
  • Ask close friends or family members especially if they have previous experience with psychotherapy or infidelity.
  • Ask your physician or pastor for a referral to someone they trust.
  • View the online directory of in-network mental health providers recognized by your health insurance company.
  • Check-out suggested therapists online to get more information.

3. What to Look for in an Infidelity Specialist – Consider these qualifications:

  • Type of educational degree: Ph.D., Psy.D., MD or MA/MS
  • Licensed by the state or working under the license of an agency or as an intern under professional supervision
  • Type of license: Psychologist, Social Worker, Physician, Marriage and Family Therapist
  • Number of years working as a therapist
  • Treatment specialties
  • Level of experience with infidelity
  • A pledge of valuable and productive sessions
  • Good listening skills
  • Provision of helpful direction, advice and feedback
  • Trustworthy demeanor and presence
  • Compassionate and accepting personality

4. Meet Therapists Face-To-Face – Assess the therapist’s style: 

  • Did you feel comfortable and trusting of the therapist?
  • Did the therapist ask you probing questions about your situation?
  • Did the therapist evaluate your situation before recommending therapy?
  • Did the therapist offer you hope and an initial treatment plan?
  • Did you determine the costs and insurance coverage to expect?
  • Will the therapist submit claims to your health insurance company?

If you want information about my “Therapy for Infidelity” services, click here: http://www.drrevelmiller.com/what-we-treat/therapy-for-infidelity/

 

To learn more about qualifying therapists, read my article “How Can We Qualify an  Effective Infidelity Therapist?” by clicking on the link below:  http://www.drrevelmiller.com/2019/10/how-can-we-qualify-an-effective-infidelity-therapist/

 

Over the past 30 years I have provided therapy for many couples and a good number of infidelity breaches. I’d like to help you both through this ordeal to heal and live a more fulfilling life. Let’s work together to lift you out of the darkness.

Call me soon to schedule an initial consultation session– 805-448-5053.

 

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Infidelity/Affairs

What Can We Expect from Infidelity Therapy?

Overcoming the Impact of an Affair Is Hard Work.

But it is possible, over time, to re-ignite love and re-build trust again. Forgiving will take longer. Eventually, you can put your relationship into a helpful perspective and make decisions that are mutually empowering and generous.

With personal commitment, determination and compassion along with the direction of an experienced professional guide, you can move forward. Try to be positive and hopeful all along the way while you stretch your tolerance for your partner and yourself. Only then will you successfully be able repair your marriage and rekindle your relationship.

Why Should We Share This Intimate and Painful Experience with a Professional?

Because now is not the time to go it alone. Despite your feelings of shame and sorrow, restoration on an individual basis or as a couple is not likely to happen by keeping this event private just between the two of you.

Trust and healthy communication are likely stifled or even crippled between you. Hurtful distancing and withdrawal between spouses/partners are normal after an affair. However, you probably don’t want to do any more damage to your connection.

If you hope to recover as a couple, you need find an infidelity therapist who is objective and dedicated to your recovery. This type of specialized counseling can be very helpful and relieving. After actively participating in therapy for infidelity many couples move forward in life and rebuild a satisfying long-term relationship.

What Should We Expect from Therapy for Infidelity?

Ultimately, therapy after an affair works best if your therapist is a trustworthy professional, an experienced guide and a compassionate partner in your healing process.

With time and commitment in therapy, you will gain new tools and insights that help you overcome your emotional and mental disruption. Choose a therapist who can present to you how they are going to work with you and what you can expect during therapy. Have them share a clear process for helping you to maintain hope and gain new perspective and knowledge regarding the possible reasons for the affair.

Expect the therapist to tolerate intense emotional instability and to involve both partners in the therapeutic process. The counselor should commit to helping you improve your relationship and not demonstrate bias toward either one of you.

How Will an Experienced Therapist Direct Us During the Sessions?

Select a professional who guides rather than lectures. They should provide some assignments, tasks and tools to help you interact and connect during your sessions and at home.

An experienced and compassionate therapist will also work with you to deal with past unresolved issues and unproductive coping methods. Their goal is not to “cure” your relationship quickly but to help you achieve a mutually satisfying connection based on honesty and a renewed trust.

What If One of Us Decides to Separate and Divorce?

At times in therapy, a partner decides to leave the relationship. Should one or both of you choose to separate, the therapist can help you come to an understanding of this decision and assist you to let go of lingering anger and resentment. Then he/she can help you accept this decision and support you as you prepare to leave your home and your partner in a healthy way and to wrap-up unfinished business.

At some point, you might ask the therapist to help you get through the challenging divorce process as well.

Don’t Freeze or Procrastinate!

You deserve to feel better and pull out of this overwhelming experience. Don’t put off starting your treatment sessions immediately. Don’t suffer any longer. And, don’t rely on hope to miraculously and rapidly heal this serious split in your relationship.

Although you must be hopeful about repairing the damage in your relationship, hope alone won’t work for you either. As a couple, you will both need to put in effort and time to heal this wound. There is no benefit for you in prolonging your suffering.

 

If you want to find out about my “Therapy for Infidelity”, click this link: http://www.drrevelmiller.com/what-we-treat/therapy-for-infidelity/

 

For information about how to choose a therapist, read my other blog article entitled “How to Find and Assess an Infidelity Therapist” by clicking this link: http://www.drrevelmiller.com/2019/10/how-do-we-find-and-assess-an-infidelity-therapist/

 

For information on why you should engage in infidelity therapy, visit my blog article entitled “Why Should We Get into Therapy for Infidelity ” by clicking this link: http://www.drrevelmiller.com/2019/10/why-should-we-get-into-therapy-for-infidelity/

If you want to discuss this further, Call Me at 805-448-5053. We can decide whether or not you are ready for therapy and if I might be able to help you.

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Couples/Marital Issues Infidelity/Affairs

Why Should We Get into Therapy for Infidelity?

Should We Look for Help?

Are you and your spouse/partner stuck, hurting and confused in the aftermath of an affair? If yes, then you aren’t alone. In fact, many couples like you find themselves reeling and filled with painful emotions, asking, “Now what?”

If it feels like the bottom fell out of the life you built together, then it’s time to seek help. Your relationship will not fix itself over time if this violation is ignored and not attended to.

How Destructive Is an Affair?

Infidelity is one of the most volatile and painful events that can happen to a marriage or love relationship. Affairs create deep damage to couples and they often never recover their closeness and trust without some type of therapeutic intervention.

However, in order to successfully use counseling, you both need to commit to repairing your relationship and to participating in couple therapy for infidelity. Otherwise, your relationship will probably deteriorate, become unhappy and smolder with anger, resentment and distrust.

Why Do Couples Resist Seeking Out Therapy for Infidelity?

After an affair, some couples don’t seek out a therapist  for a number of reasons:

  • They deny and minimize the damage of infidelity.
  • One partner is afraid and refuses to participate in therapy.
  • It makes them feel weak if they need to depend on a professional.
  • One partner immediately separates and files for divorced.
  • The hurt partner decides to be a miserable victim.
  • They both feel hopeless, get depressed and never take action.
  • The hurt partner fears abandonment and needs the other partner’s money.
  • They fear the relationship may explode and end in divorce.
  • They fear that therapy may trigger aggression, arguments or violence.
  • One partner is very needy and dependent.
  • One partner may feel worthless and non-deserving of an honest relationship.
  • One partner threatens to leave if the other one seeks therapy.
  • One partner is afraid to uncover other affairs that may have taken place.
  • They cannot afford therapy.

As you can see from the list above, there are all sorts of reasons (reasonable and unreasonable) why partners don’t seek therapy after an affair. Usually, it is out of fear of the imagined negative consequences if they engage in therapy.

What Are the Consequences If We Don’t Get Involved in Therapy?

Here’s what’s likely to happen if you do nothing and avoid therapy for infidelity:

  • Perpetual arguments and hurtful references to and memories of the infidelity.
  • Inability to re-ignite love, affection and intimacy.
  • More affairs may occur.
  • Eventual separation and divorce.
  • Hatred, resentment and/or distrust of the unfaithful partner.
  • Unhappy family relations resulting in depression.
  • Gradual erosion of the relationship.
  • Inability to re-bond or re-attach.

Why Should We Get Started in Therapy for Infidelity?

Although we can predict that counseling will be emotionally intense, it usually activates hope that the relationship can be repaired and re-ignited. Without attending to the breach in trust with some outside assistance, it is doubtful that the relationship will be a happy one far into the future.

Relationships don’t fix themselves. It takes honest effort to keep a relationship alive, loving and gratifying. If you don’t take significant action and avoid therapy, don’t expect things to change for the better in your relationship/marriage.

Therapy for Infidelity May Be Your Best Choice.

Because an affair is so disturbing to the hurt one and so damaging to relationships, you usually won’t be able to work things out satisfactorily on your own.

I don’t mean to be pessimistic or negative, but this type of relationship violation is often too stressful for couples to manage and repair on their own. At best, the spouses/partners may work some things out and make some improvement over time. But, one or both partners may slowly smolder and hold resentments against the other one. This resentment breeds depression, hopelessness, anger, loneliness and unhappiness. And that’s painful – much more painful over an extended period of time than immediately and openly dealing with the affair directly with a trusted therapist.

Marriages and love relationships can be repaired however it takes effort, time and faith. If relationships are not nurtured and attended to, they can dry up, go stale and become boring.

All couples wrestling with infidelity need to decide in what direction they will move – toward improved communication and repair work or into floundering and distrust.

Don’t Be Afraid to Do This Intense Healing Work.

I’m here to help you both and this therapy for infidelity is well worth the effort.

Why? Because otherwise you may end up carrying negative feelings inside yourself for the remainder of your life. Together in counseling, there is a good chance that you can process the pain and pursue the peace and forgiveness in your relationship that you long for.  It may save your relationship.

I am very supportive of marriage and fulfilling love relationships. At times, however, they suffer.

If you want to find out more about my “Therapy for Infidelity”, click on this link: http://www.drrevelmiller.com/what-we-treat/therapy-for-infidelity/

If you are interested in finding a therapist, read my other blog article called “How to Find and Assess an Infidelity Therapist”. Click on the link below to visit this article: http://www.drrevelmiller.com/2019/10/how-do-we-find-and-assess-an-infidelity-therapist/

If you want to resolve your infidelity breach, give me a call at 805-448-5053 for an initial consultation.

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Business Coaching

What Do Coaches Do with Their Clients?

How Are Coaches Used Today?

Individuals started hiring coaches to assist them in attaining their personal goals. And then companies and corporations started hiring coaches to enhance profits and improve the skills and effectiveness of their managers and executives.

Today, people are increasingly looking to develop new skills and/or hone existing skills. Whether it is for fame, fortune, or personal advancement and fulfillment, enhanced skills can bring rewards.

How Do Coaches Work?

Some experts become “coaches”, helping people learn new skills, concepts and strategies. Coaching can be a full-time professional career or a part-time vocation. They usually work with individual clients but sometimes they work with project or work teams. A coach may provide services face-to-face, remotely using the internet or a combination of these two methods.

Coaches differentiate themselves from teachers, consultants and therapists because they help clients or “coachees” to:

  1. Identity their goals,
  2. Develop plans to meet those goals,
  3. Maintain accountability to achieve the goals,
  4. Sustain motivation while striving to reach goals,
  5. Educate clients how to attain their targeted goals.

Therefore, coaches are:

  • Strategic
  • Goal-oriented
  • Action-oriented
  • Goal-focused
  • Accountability-oriented
  • Result-oriented
  • Future-oriented
  • Supportive

Coaches are always aimed toward the desired end-result.

Why Do Individuals and Companies Hire Coaches?

To achieve goals, of course – but that does not come easily. Goal attainment requires time, patience, hard work and guidance. Coaches provide that guidance but also a particular set of tools, insight, experience and talent in their client’s area of pursuit. They help coachees when they are discouraged, struggling and/or stuck by a barrier. The coachee’s accountability to their coach adds social pressure to take strategic actions already committed to.

Coaches strive to get their clients to the desired end result. Initially, the skilled coach taps into their client’s passion and encourages them to strive for distant but achievable goals. In addition, a coach may guide a client to discover their own talent and self-motivation. All people resist hard work but a trusted coach can help a client keep making progress when their motivation declines.

A relationship with a coach is a safe space. In that protected relationship, you will be taught ways to obtain a clear view of yourself and what you are trying to achieve.

What Are the Methods of Coaching?
Overall, coaches provide the following assistance:

  1. Identify goals to achieve
  2. Sharpen particular skills in order to achieve their goals
  3. Formulate strategies and tactics to attain goals
  4. Develop a written action plan to achieve the goals
  5. Modify the plan as necessary
  6. Hold clients accountable to their commitments, actions and deadlines
  7. Measure progress within the action plan
  8. Help clients overcome personal and external obstacles and barriers
  9. Tighten execution
  10. Support clients when floundering
  11. Push clients beyond their comfort zone
  12. Inspire clients to demand more of their potential

Generally, the coach-client connection is designed to identify blind spots, increase clarity, and cultivate more happiness in the client’s life. The road to success in any field is bumpy, winding and sometimes exhausting.

Even with the best intentions and discipline, at times it is easy to get side-tracked and lose sight of your targeted goal. Without a trained and focused coaching professional by your side, you may understandably waver and veer off your strategic plan.

Coaches understand this struggle and they work closely with you to keep you focused, motivated and enthusiastic. Your goals are important to them and a big part of why they’ve become a coach is to experience the joy of witnessing clients succeed

How Can Coaching Clients Succeed?

Coaching clients must be passionate, determined and self-motivated to reach tough or competitive goals. They must also be willing to set priorities, make tough decisions, remain disciplined, hold to their career vision, and sacrifice many extraneous desires in order to attain high-level goals. Trusting your coach and making a full commitment to your goals and your plan are imperative.

Click this link to learn more about my specialty Business Performance Coaching services:  http://www.drrevelmiller.com/what-we-treat/business-performance-coaching/

 

To stay on track and make tough decisions, Call Me at 805-448-5053 to discuss your coaching needs.

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Business Coaching

What Type of Coaching Specialties Are Available?

When Did Coaching Start?

The concept of “coaching” has come a long way in the twenty-first century. It is a relatively new discipline that became popular about 2000. Before that period, coaches may have been referred to as consultants, mentors, supervisors, teachers or guides.

Over the past 100 years, coaching has been well known in field of sports. Almost all of us have had an individual or team coach in athletics or an instructor in a school physical education class. They were known to blow whistles and lead athletes in practice sessions and events. In the past, some of us may have also had or heard about voice and acting coaches.

How Has Coaching Evolved Over Time?

Over the past 20 years, many coach training institutes and organizations have developed and provided certifications and a few national and international professional coaching associations have been launched. Plus, the number of people calling themselves coaches, and the number of specialty coaching areas, have grown rapidly in the USA and internationally.

Valuable coaching relationships are no longer solely found in the domain of sports and other physical pursuits. Today, gifted coaches work in a broad number of areas and environments to help people reach their desired goals.

Many coaches have their own independent coaching business or they work for a coaching company. In addition, some are employed by corporations to coach their managers and young high-potential employees. However, business owners and corporate executives usually prefer hiring outside or “external” coaches to work with.

The 9 Most Popular Types of Coaching Specialties.

Wherever there are difficult challenges people face, there is a self-appointed coach who has expertise in that area.

Although there are many different types of coaches, below are some of the newer and most popular coaching specialties today:

  1. Business Performance Coach – Covers skills in management, team building, marketing, branding, sales, strategic planning and succession planning to help large corporations and small businesses succeed.
  2. Corporate Coach – Involves guidance in strategic planning, management, team development, personal presence, corporate culture development, adjustment to a new corporate culture, executive training, creation of presentations, plotting out a career trajectory.
  3. Personal Life Coach – Assists people to achieve a varying combination of personal needs and wants to improve their relationships and lifestyle.
  4. Career Coach – Provides information and strategic support in planning and pursuing a new job or career, application and resume preparation, job interview readiness, salary negotiations, contract review, career path planning.
  5. Fitness/Health Coaching – Guides clients with health, exercise and lifestyle objectives.
  6. Nutrition/Diet Coach – Supports people with information and guidance to become disciplined in weight loss or an improved diet.
  7. Skills Coach – Helps clients to learn new skills in focused areas, like yoga, martial arts, ice skating, bookkeeping, athletic competitions and beyond.
  8. Arts Coach – Helps people to enhanced and expand their natural abilities and talents in specific areas such as music, painting, acting, etc.
  9. Academic Coaching – Like a tutor or teacher, they help people learn topics, take tests, write essays and chart a path through college applications.

You can find specialty coaches and coaching companies online and they may need to work with you remotely via the internet.

Click this link below to learn more about my specialty Business Performance Coaching services:

http://www.drrevelmiller.com/what-we-treat/business-performance-coaching/

To overcome tough personal and business hurdles, call me at 805-448-5053 to discuss your coaching needs. 

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Inspirational Quotes

Inspirational Quotations

Life and Dance:

Kids: they dance before they learn there is anything that isn’t music.  ~William Stafford

There is a bit of insanity in dancing that does everybody a great deal of good.  ~Edwin Denby

Please send me your last pair of shoes, worn out with dancing as you mentioned in your letter, so that I might have something to press against my heart.  ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Goals Life Transitions

How Can I Make It Through a Rough Transitional Period?

Doesn’t the Stress of Change Ever Cease?

Humans are constantly evolving physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, behaviorally and spiritually and our self-identity changes over time as well. We never stop growing, developing and transforming. Therefore, our self-confidence, self-esteem and self-concept are also constantly in flux. Few people feel like they are exactly the same as they were a year or more ago.

Is Transition an Even and Predictable Process?

No, evolution does not progress smoothly or predictably. And some people struggle more than others to grow. Some develop and unfold in small increments. Others change in remarkable ways. Some are stuck and others regress and go backward. So, a human life is in a “start-stop” evolutionary progression.

Some people initiate their own growth while others passively wait for it to happen naturally. Or, they avoid and resist change altogether. Most significant growth is challenging and accompanied by some type of struggle or pain. Infants and small children grow the most and they struggle a lot to develop. From 5 to 12 we often struggle less. Then from 13 to 26 the struggle is heightened and confronts us again. All of this is referred to as developmental maturation or differentiation.

Do Adults Go Through Changes?

Adult humans grow and develop through transitional periods of change. There may be quieter periods when little seems to be shifting. Then of course, there are tragedies, losses, illnesses, accidents and unexpected events and changes that catch us by surprise, set us back or stop us in our tracks. Sometimes events are such powerful or traumatic experiences that they send us backwards into psychological turmoil.

At times, these transitional experiences can be very disorienting, painful and frightening. We fear getting stuck forever in the process. Transitions are hard and everyone experiences them. Some are harder than others. Whether it’s adolescent turmoil, young adult emancipation, loss of a loved one, divorce, illness, aging or career change, all of us confront transitions.

What Can I Do If a Transition Seems to Overwhelm Me?

If you get stuck or feel overwhelmed, seek psychological assistance to get through a transitional period successfully. Don’t give up or surrender to despair. There is a new and richer life after an unexpected event if you work through the transition to the other side.

Often, life transitions don’t feel good and you may not know where you’re headed. But nevertheless, muster up your courage and get support and guidance to face your dilemma, overcome it and conquer it. You’ll be glad you did and you’ll be able to give more to others after your maturing and meaningful passage.

You can do it and you can succeed. You are resilient and can adapt and change.

If you need support and guidance while plowing through a difficult life transition, give me a call – 805-448-5053. I can keep you moving forward to the other side.

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If I See a Therapist, Does that Mean I Am Crazy?

If I Seek Help, Doesn’t that Mean I’m Sick or Mentally Ill?

Going to a therapist does not mean that you are crazy. It means that you are courageous, practical and motivated to solve problems. Those who seek psychotherapy are assertive, open and aware people who take care of themselves and desire a better life. Solving problems is a priority to them so they spend time, money and energy on their therapy sessions.

I totally respect and admire my clients for their courage to face their problems and to open up and trust me.

Won’t Others Think that I Am Weak and Weird?

Maybe. People make judgments and have opinions about many things. But they should not determine how you live your life. Plus, you can’t please everyone or get everyone’s acceptance about your behavior. And, they probably cannot help you very much with your problems. They have their own issues to worry about.

Your job in life is to strive for a fulfilling life and to learn how to be resilient when disappointments arise. Learning healthy coping skills will enhance your daily life. Going to a therapist does not mean that you are weak, weird or dependent. If you cannot solve your issue or alleviate your own emotional pain, then it is practical to see a therapist to get some help with your concerns. It means that you are strong, determined and independent.

What Is Stigma?

Stigma is an exaggerated fear, a socially biased opinion based on fear.

Stigma, or a negative opinion that interferes with your seeking help, can delay the problem solving and cause further problems. Procrastinating on identifying a therapist and committing to therapy drags out your suffering even further. Don’t allow this resistance to stop you from solving your personal, relationship and family issues.

Do you want fear to dominate or guide your life?

Seek Help When You Are Stuck.

Although you and other people may have a negative attitude toward seeing a mental health professional, you should never feel too ashamed or afraid to ask for specialized help. The goal is to overcome a problem or emotional pain. And at times we need help.

Try not to worry about your negative beliefs about therapists or how others might react when they learn you are in therapy. And remember that your relationship with your therapist is confidential and private in order to protect and make you feel safe. This should encourage you to become more open and to take risks to reveal who you really are to the therapist.

I wrote another blog article about how to find a therapist. If you want to know more about how to locate a therapist, click on this link:  http://www.drrevelmiller.com/2019/10/how-do-i-select-a-therapist-for-my-depression/

What Will Happen If I Decide Not to See a Therapist?

Probably nothing will happen. Your life may remain the same. You will continue to struggle with your same problems day-in and day-out. I doubt your life will repair itself or improve without your putting in effort.

And the pain or frustration you are experiencing will probably not simply evaporate and disappear. In fact, by refusing to engage in counseling, you may prolong your suffering and painful predicament or make it worse. You deserve better.

Take that Leap Toward Feeling Better!

Once you try a few sessions with a competent therapist, you will see how helpful therapy can be. You will likely feel relieved and more trusting, get insight into your problems, and take actions to improve your life.

Go for it!  You deserve it.

 

If you believe that I may be able to assist you, then give me a call – 805-448-5053. We can have a brief initial consult together on the phone. You can feel me out and we can determine if therapy may be helpful for you. Give it a try!